Dr. Baby VS. Dr. Fabulous

I haven't blogged in several days. I have been a little down about the consultation. At the consultation, we heard that Charlie has to have his procedure at the same time that I am undergoing initial testing, and that I could get started as soon as my cycle rolls around. Then, Charlie called his doctor and heard that he couldn't perform the surgery until MAY!! Here's the thing, when you are going through something like this, it becomes the center of your universe. It is exhausting, and my anxiety level about the whole thing is through the roof. I was prepared to be anxious for a little while (it's been almost a year since we started this process), but the calendar in my head had me getting pregnant in April/May, not July/August. By that time, Charlie may put me in a psych unit- both for his safety, and the safety of his children.
I like to think of myself as a take-charge-without-being-controlling kind of girl, but the idea of such a huge event taking place in such and unnatural way AND on someone else's calendar, makes me postal. Here is the issue: Dr. Fabulous (Charlie's doctor- not his real name), ONLY does procedures on Tuesdays. Here is the other issue: We are paying out of pocket for this...So, it occurred to me that performing procedures ONLY on Tuesday is shitty customer service- and in this case, WE are the customer and not at the mercy of some provider agreement between our doctor and our insurance company. Needless to say, I got on the horn. I called my doctor (please note at this point that anytime I say, "called my doctor", I really only spoke to the secretary, because doctors don't actually speak on the phone unless there's cancer involved. Also, they still call them, "secretary"), and I told my doctor (secretary) that I didn't want to wait until May to start this process and could they please recommend another Urologist to do the procedure. My doctor's office tells me that Dr.Fabulous is the only doctor they use. I told her that I didn't want to wait several months to get started and that we would seek services elsewhere (that was a bit of a bluff- I don't even know how many places do this in our metro area and I have heard that this place is the best) She (secretary) said she would
double check and call me back. She called me back to let me know that my doctor (she's actually very nice- let's call her Dr. Baby) is out of town until next week, but when Dr. Baby gets back she will call Dr. Fabulous and try to get him to move the procedure up. I'm sure that in reality, Dr. Baby's Secretary will call Dr. Fabulous's secretary and, together, they will work out the future of my reproduction.
Anyway, I haven't heard back from either of them, yet.